LIFELONG PARTNERS: CHOOSING WISELY
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Lifelong Partners: Choosing Wisely
Remember the third installment of the Indiana Jones series? Indiana and the wealthy, collector guy (Walter Donovan) are rushing to find the Holy Grail. They finally find the cave where it’s hidden and guarded by the Grail Knight. Donovan grabs a bejeweled cup, dips it into the nearby water, drinks and turns into this crazy mass of ugly death. The Knight dryly says, “He chose poorly.”
Next, it’s Indiana’s turn. He pulls a rather modest cup off the shelf, dips it into the water, drinks, and after a long pause, he’s fine. The Knight looks at him and says, “You have chosen…wisely.”
We’ve all made good and bad choices in our lives, but outside of choosing Jesus, who we choose or have chosen as a husband or wife will or has determined so much about our journey. Our spouse is the lifts up dreams or crushes them. They support us or they discourage us. They help us be the best we can or they bring out the absolute worst in us. It is the 2nd most critical choice a person makes in his or her life.
- What do these verses say about making wise choices?
- How do you think they apply to finding a mate?
Learning to Choose
Walter Donovan, in the Indiana Jones movie, looked at the cups and chose one that had a rich, jeweled outer appearance. He remarks that it looks like the cup of the King of Kings. He didn’t know Jesus well enough to know that a humble carpenter and the Son of God would not care about jewels. The right cup was made of wood; the right choice for a humble man whose heart was in God’s hands.
In 1 Samuel 16, Samuel is sent to Jesse’s house to find the new king. As he looks over Jesse’s sons, he makes a similar mistake as Donovan. He looks at each son’s external appearance. He keeps waiting for God to confirm his choice, but he’s not looking at the right things. After the long day, the young shepherd son of Jesse arrives. In spite of his youth and lack of experience, he’s the right choice. He had a heart after God’s.
When we look at someone’s outward appearance, we often fail to see what God sees. God, however doesn’t use looks as His criteria. He examines people’s hearts. He sees their character, their faithfulness and their commitment to Him.
It’s easy to be charmed by someone’s good looks. However, it will be a person’s heart that makes a lasting connecting. His or her character will close the deal.
- What does God teach through these Proverbs about choosing wisely?
- How can you begin to understand someone’s heart? Faith? Values?
- If you are married, what qualities of your mate do you most treasure? What attracted you to them initially?
- If you are single, what qualities do you believe are important in a mate?
Speaker John Fisher relates this story:
A couple came in late [to his seminar], and I could see that they were in love. I couldn’t help but notice the woman was very attractive, while the guy was a real nerd.
“What could she see in him?” I wondered. From the outside, this couple didn’t look like a match. Then, I realized that she was blind.
“What did she see in him? She saw everything that was important in a person. She saw love. While another woman might not have gotten past the man’s unimpressive exterior, she was blind to that. She only saw his heart. Blessed are the blind, for they can see people as they really are.”
- Would you rather have people look at your appearance or at your heart? Why?
- How can a focus on the heart help you see the real person and make the best choice?
 Devotions on the Go! Volume 1, Grand Rapids, Zondervan Publishing House, © 2009, p. 22.
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