The important choice of who you’re doing life with
We All Know “That Person”:
We’ve all had that person in our lives that brings out the absolute worst in us. Maybe you met them in school or in a sport or maybe they lived in your neighborhood but any time you were getting into serious trouble, they were right there with you. They encourage you in all the wrong ways and know which buttons to push to get you moving in the wrong direction. The friendship is toxic, but for whatever reason, you just can’t cut the person loose.
Choosing the right friends is one of the most important skills we can ever acquire. If we don’t learn to choose our friends wisely, we open the door to some of the worst things this life can throw at us. The wrong friends can wreck our lives!
Read Proverbs 13:20
- Put this verse in your own words and repeat it a few times.
- Have you ever been a “companion of fools?” Describe the situation. What ended up happening?
- What is it about the “wrong friendships” that can be so attractive?
Making the Right Call:
The people we choose to lock arms with will greatly affect the quality and direction of our lives. Paul gives us some good wisdom to consider in 2 Corinthians 6:14-15. He says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness . . . What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”
This verse isn’t addressing the question of who we should be willing to talk to, who we should be kind to, or even who we should be willing to invest in. This passage is talking about the people we allow to fill the seat of influence in our lives. Paul is helping us understand that people with conflicting values, beliefs, and priorities should not be given the opportunity to guide our steps; they should not be the people we turn to for direction, perspective, or wisdom.
Read Proverbs 1:10-16
- Bad friends can lead us toward destructive behavior. What does this verse advise us to do?
- What are some of the difficulties that can come up when we try to leave bad relationships behind?
- How can God help us protect our hearts in these situations? Read Psalm 32:7 for encouragement.
Just as we’ve all had people in our lives that have led us into destructive patterns, we’ve probably also had people that have helped us be the best possible version of ourselves. They are people that speak truth into our lives even when we don’t want to hear it. They are people who will sit with us in our pain and hurt but won’t let us stay there for too long. These friends stick closer than a brother and partner with us as we move closer to Christ. God created us to do life in community and the people we put in the circle will make all the difference in the world.
- Are there some relationships that you may need to step back from?
- Do the negative people in your life that have too much influence?
- Who are the people you should be getting closer to this week?
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