HONESTLY?

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Honestly?

Tough Questions and Easy Answers

We’ve all had one; a question whose honest answer will bring anger, judgment, embracement, or hurt to someone we love.  “Does this look good on me” when it really doesn’t.  “Do you think she’s pretty?” When you really do.  “Do you think I did the right thing” when you really don’t.  It’s at these moments when a little white lie seems like our best friend.

The fact is, honesty is fine when it doesn’t cost us anything.  But, when the answer is difficult, it seems easier to withhold certain details, deflect answers, ignore the question, bend the facts, or downright lie to avoid the consequences of the truth.

Abram (aka Abraham) from the Bible faced a very similar situation in Genesis, chapter 12.  It’s comforting to know that “Bible people” struggled with the same things we do.

Read Genesis 12:10-20

  • Do you think you would have responded in the same way?  Why or why not?
  • How do you think this affected Abram’s integrity and reputation among the Egyptians?

 

The Truth Can Be Pricey

The truth will often cost you something.  What makes it even harder is that the benefits of honesty aren’t often immediately seen or felt.  Anyone who has ever told the truth when confronted by his/her parents has discovered this.  The truth doesn’t sidestep the punishment.

Read Luke 19:1-10

  • What did choosing to be honest cost Zaccheus?
  • What did he gain through his honesty?
  • Think about a similar circumstance from your own life.  Do you wish you would have responded differently? Are you glad you responded the way you did?

 

Walking Securely

The book of Proverbs says a lot about honesty. Solomon (the author of most of them) was a man of wisdom who experienced both sides of honesty.  Over time he learned the cost of honesty as he morally, financially and spiritually compromised and his kingdom declined. Later in his life, he lends his wisdom to us concerning honesty:

Read Proverbs 10:9; 12:19; 19:5

  • What does it mean to “walk securely?” Should that be a goal for us who follow Christ? What are some ways our faith helps us to walk securely, even when it costs us?
  • Why do you think dishonest people “will not go free?”
  • How does honesty at all times free us? How does dishonesty put us into bondage?

 

Challenge

Honesty was made for all circumstances and situations.  It’s not always easy and it’s not without its consequences but it is always what honors God in the long term.

  • What is one truth you need to share with someone this week that is going to hurt?
  • What do you need to do this week to find the courage to be honest?

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  • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

    Hey everybody. Welcome to The Conversation. The purpose of this space is for you to enjoy the devotion and then share insights and stories about how God is working in your life through this truth. Our devotion is inspired by the weekend so you can continue working through Brad’s talk all week long! Thanks for stopping by, we look forward to hearing from you!

    606 days ago

  • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

    Honesty is the Best Policy…Integrity Matters…Tell the Truth! Does anybody else hear those words ringing in your head when you need be straight with someone? I sure do!

    To be completely truthful is not something that comes easily; we view things through our personal biases. I can honestly say it is something that I have to work on every day and depend on God to work on in me. My sinful nature keeps me from 100% honesty, but God has given me the ultimate source of truth, His Word, and He has given me the Holy Spirit to guide me in my pursuit of becoming more like Him every day.

    What I appreciate about what Brad is teaching on in this Series is that we are being encouraged to grow in our relationship with God by focusing on wisdom. If we apply it, it will help us to thrive as God’s children and to become more like Jesus every day. Through our relationships and The Conversation we can encourage each other along the way as well.

    The bottom line is; God knows the truth, there’s no getting around that!

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Jim Baarnes

      in reply to Anita (Discovery Island)

      yes i agree, honesty is the best way to a fulfilling relationship with our Father God. it may hurt at first but you know it will work out towards our benefit. (Romans 8:28)

      605 days ago

  • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

    I recall, years ago, opening my bottom drawer looking for some t-shirts and finding a pair of hospital scrubs from when our third child was born, months prior. As soon as I saw them I felt a sense of conviction in my heart. I stole these! What was I supposed to do? I was now a seminary student and thought, “what would others think?”

    I tried to ease my guilty conscience by rationalizing the entitlement of paying for the portion of the hospital cost and I concluded that they probably didn’t even know that they were missing from such a large inventory. Well, God not only convicted me of the stolen goods, but He gently impressed on me to return them to the hospital. I tried to ignore it, but God would not let this one go.

    So the next day, I drove to the hospital and went to the maternity area and honestly told them that God had impressed in my heart that I stole these scrubs during our stay, and that I must return them to them and ask for forgiveness. The nurse surprisingly recalled my name and said she had never had anyone return something –“we know a lot of stuff leaves here.” She proceeded to take the scrubs, told me not to worry about a thing, thanked me, and then asked with a long pause…”What God do you believe in that would cause you to come back here?” With now a full nursing staff staring at me, I began to share about my story of a faithful Christ who took me in by trusting in Him personally. I walked from that hospital with such freedom, contentment, and closeness to God.

    God loves honest, broken humility in those who follow Him, for it reflects the nature of Himself to a world that does not know of His love, acceptance and forgiveness.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Val Waldron

      in reply to Nick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      What a way to share the experience of your faith with others. It’s encouraging to know that a simple act of honesty can encourage someone to ask about Christ.

      605 days ago

  • Marian Starrs

    I appreciated Brad’s discussion of the different ways we can be dishonest. It’s not only the verbal telling of a lie. I do have a question — if you did something very wrong in your BC days, and have repented and received forgiveness for it, is it always necessary to confess to family members who may be crushed by it?

    606 days ago2 Replies

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to Marian Starrs

      Marian, the beauty of being God’s child is that God wipes the slate clean. We have new beginings, The old is gone and the new has come! It is not necessary that we have to “confess” to family members from our BC days, but If God is placing in your heart to share your past journey in relation to the grace and forgiveness God has done in your life that will bring others to the light of Christ, then I would, with humilty and love. Family is tough, I would use wisdom and prayer in the timing and clarity of words if God moves you to share.

      606 days ago

    • Amy

      in reply to Marian Starrs

      I think there’s a part 2 to this message in that there can be an incredible amount of pain that accompanies honesty. Brad used a verse about how lies can crush someone’s heart. I don’t know what the answer is in your situation, but just be aware that the freedom of honesty that you walk away with may be coupled with the crushing of someone elses’ heart. In my situation, I’m glad I know the lies that had been told to me, but my life will never be the same again and I deal on a daily basis with that crushed feeling. Honesty is vital, but so is supporting someone through a healing process once you have come clean.

      606 days ago

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Amy

      Those are powerful words Amy. We must be willing to deal with the situation our honesty might make. Honesty must be coupled with great value toward those we are honest with.

      606 days ago

  • Mike Johnson

    There are three things that I took from this talk this weekend that I pray God will stick firmly in my head like a clam diggers boot gets stuck in the mud. One, always be honest COUPLED with kindness. I can’t urge that enough Two, stop….talking……so…….much! And three,think about what I am saying before I open my trouble trap.Brad, thanks for the new wrinkle in my brain, I will be trying to put it to good use!

    606 days ago2 Replies

    • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      Love the stuck in the mud word picture, I pray these 3 simple steps will be put to use in my life too.

      606 days ago

    • Victoria

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      Thanks you for the reminder to shut my mouth. I somehow forgot to write that down. :)

      605 days ago

  • Emily

    “As scarce as truth is, the supply has always been in excess of the demand.” ~ ~Josh Billings (1818-1885)~

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Emily

      Wow, great quote. Convicting.

      606 days ago

  • Marian Starrs

    Thank you.

    606 days ago

  • Jessica

    The lie I seem to struggle with most now, is the lie of ommision. I feel I am acting in the interest of others by keeping this to myself, when if fact I am willingly hiding behind the truth. Unlike Abraham, I’m not outwardly deceiving others… just pretending everything s fine to sheild them from worry, and protect myself from their possible judgement.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

      in reply to Jessica

      God has given us His Word, the Holy Spirit and others to direct, guide and help us everyday. I know that the evil one likes to keep us from all that God intended.

      606 days ago

    • Val Waldron

      in reply to Anita (Discovery Island)

      Well said – the enemy likes to keep us from growing in our relationships and getting comfort from others by playing on our fear of being judged. It’s hard to be completely honest about ourselves to others, but the alternative (isolation) leaves us vulnerable, too.

      605 days ago

  • Joy

    Brad’s message this week really hit home for me once again. I should really talk less and listen more. And also think more before I speak. I will be following up with reading this week from proverbs. Thank you Brad and Northridge.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Joy

      Well said Joy.

      606 days ago

  • Angie

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    606 days ago

  • Jenni

    I thought it was a great talk. I do struggle though with things such as friends asking if you like their new haircut or outfit, when they clearly do. I just think is it that horrible to tell them it looks nice? I really should say no, I don’t think that looks very nice on you? Seems like in some situations being completely honest would cause more harm than good.

    606 days ago2 Replies

    • Alyssa

      in reply to Jenni

      I agree Jenni, that’s still a tough one. It can crush someone who is very sensitive when you speak the truth, even when it’s delivered as kindly as possible. It seems like there may always be something nice to say. Like with an outfit that is not the most flattering, perhaps there is one element (color, fabric, etc.) that is positive and you can focus on that. Is that still being less than 100% honest, though??

      606 days ago

    • Laurel

      in reply to Jenni

      In this case, it’s not an objective truth you’re being asked to share, but an opinion. We often get uptight about these questions, because we think too highly of our own opinion. We could be in the minority. Maybe 75% of people think it’s fabulous, or at least 75% of the target audience, which may be a different age/gender/fashion culture than you are. As long as we’re not talking issues of modesty or decency, take your own reaction with a grain of salt. Sometimes humility can produce a better kind of honesty, such as, “It always takes me a while to get used to a new look on people, but I enjoy changing my own hair. What’s the occasion?”
      Also, like Alyssa said, if you can honestly compliment a part of the outfit, that can help soften a criticism: “That’s a great color on you.” Then if they ask again it means they actually want your opinion, not just a blanket reassurance, so you say something that criticizes the outfit, but compliments the person: “Honestly, I’m not sure that style does you justice. It’s too…” and take the time to explain what does or doesn’t work. That can be hard, but may actually be helpful.

      606 days ago

  • Alyssa

    I loved Brad’s comment about how God put a mouth in between your brain and the outside world. That makes so much sense! If God wanted our every thought broadcast to the world, he would have made us mind readers rather than speakers and listeners. Great point and great reminder that we shouldn’t share every thought unless it is: true, necessary and kind. I’ve used this list with my kids many times.

    606 days ago

  • Kristin

    So often I have felt that God has used Brad’s messages to speak straight to my heart. This weekend was no exception. God has me on a new endeavor in my life that feels “uncomfortable”, but I have to remind myself that we can’t always be comfortable as Christ followers. God expects us to grow in our faith and that can be challenging, unfamiliar, and “uncomfortable”. Brad’s message reiterated that to me. Although I’ve been comfortable being dishonest in the past, being honest (often the uncomfortable choice) is what God expects. I feel like I’m at a point in my life where I’m going to be living in the uncomfortable for awhile…scary, exciting, life changing.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

      in reply to Kristin

      Sounds like you are really growing in your faith!

      606 days ago

  • Jerry

    I find it interesting how often we hide behind the truth of God’s word, and we let it be the buffer so we don’t have to be honest with others and ourselves. So easy to sound religious and ignore the state of our hearts. We look in the mirror of God’s word, and then walk away and forget what we look like. And then to make matters worse, we then judge others with our religious pretense. I think this is much more dangerous than the “white lie” issues of not telling someone their new hair, clothes, or makeup is freaking you out. Liar—Liar was the Pharisees code of ethics. God help us.

    606 days ago2 Replies

    • Jerry

      in reply to Jerry

      agree

      606 days ago

    • j

      in reply to Jerry

      Well said.

      605 days ago

  • Ed ( Music Team)

    Judgement and gossip from the most “religious Christians” was one of the reasons I did not like organized religion or church. This is a fascinating subject of human defeciencies that drive behavior and the real solutions being found in Proverbs and the belief that Jesus Christ can change us.

    606 days ago

  • Bill

    The whole series has been really good. Have drafted a biz blog about the “wisdom” sermon the weekend before last. May miss Rudi due to travel. Unhappy outcome, but will recover via the NR website when i return.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Bill

      Join us online at Sunday night for church at out online campus. Starts at 7p.

      606 days ago

  • Jay

    Hi – Last weeks talk hit me hard. I always thought of myself as honest and kind. Recently I purchased an item from Best Buy – a keyboard attachment for my tablet computer. Lo and behold, when I got home and opened the box, I did not receive my keyboard attachment, but Best Buy mistakenly gave me a whole new tablet computer. I should have immediately returned it and have them correct the mistake – but I got greedy and hung on to the tablet and tried to justify the mistake. It weighed on my for a couple weeks until I decided to go back and speak to the manager and pay the difference for the new tablet that I wanted to keep. *SIGH * Doing so made me feel better, but I still am very ashamed of what I did in the first place. Brads words hit home and I will hold them close to my heart and mind going forward.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

      in reply to Jay

      Jay, when we respond in ways that are less than God’s best or sinful, the hurt and shame we feel helps us to remember not to delay obedience next time. Thanks for sharing your story.

      606 days ago

  • Tricia

    The key to being honest is filtering it with love, as Brad so aptly put it. I am in the process of a divorce from a man who is very ill mentally. It is hard to be kind and honest when all your buttons are being pushed, but if you get in the habit of using God’s filters, it becomes easier..

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Joe

      in reply to Tricia

      Tricia, your situation sounds eerily like mine. I continue to try working on a marriage that has been recently obliterated by lies and deceit. My wife is also struggling with some “issues” inside of her. I pray you find peace because I know how you must feel. This has been the hardest thing I have ever been through in my life.

      606 days ago

    • Tricia

      in reply to Joe

      Failure is not the end. Lies can be forgiven if our hearts are willing and obedient to Jesus’ will. My situation involves years of physical abuse, and I am being honest enough with myself to say “enough”. I ask God to forgive me this nontheless.

      606 days ago

  • Ronld Ponkey

    I am so ridiculously happy to have so many good Christians at Northridge…all creeds, races, short, tall, casual dress,formal dress, fast walkers and slow walkers…all WONDERFUL people…and of course the Pastoral team especially Brad..Jesus via .Northridge is helping me eradicate challenges which have haunted me for so long…I think of the words from Amazing Grace…Blessings I do not deserve…Thank you all….

    606 days ago

  • Brad C.

    I have been very impressed with the series in all aspects. It really applies to my life and is helping me learn and grow as a person of God. It also answered many questions I have been pondering about. Not only did this past week’s talk help me come to a better understanding about being honest and speaking God’s truth, it helped me learn about being on the other side of the table as well.

    One of my greatest fears in the past was about being lied to, or having the truth being hidden from me. I’ve learned that the way I act or respond to honest answers also helps others be honest with me. I realized I was not a good person to be told honest answers that may have stirred up emotion. Even when others were doing it out of love and in a caring way, I would react in ways that could make the situation even more uncomfortable, thus getting less honest answers. Over time I learned how to embrace the honest answers, as they helped me change for the better, which I now strive to be better for God.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

      in reply to Brad C.

      Trust is important to not only sharing truth but accepting it too.

      606 days ago

  • Gail Neal

    I’m amazed at Nick’s story about returning the scrubs. He got to tell an entire nursing department about Jesus because he listened to God. Talk about all things working for good (Romans 8.28)!.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Gail Neal

      Isn’t that so cool! God uses our own mistakes to share His story!

      606 days ago

  • Debbi

    I agree with Brad that I need to listen more and talk less, it was a good reminder! I have commited to memory Psalm 141:3 for this very reason, “Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.” I frequently need God’s help in keeping my mouth shut.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Debbi

      You and I both! Great verse to commit to memory.

      606 days ago

  • Jerry

    I had a discussion with the kids in RP this past weekend – it’s easier sometimes to lie and avoid the consequences of telling the truth but what we know in our hearts and what God expects us to do by far out weigh those consequences. As a parent it’s hard sometimes to recognize that honesty needs to be rewarded and accountability for actions needs to be taught. Thanks for all your Posts…keep praying for the kids and us leaders downstairs.

    606 days ago2 Replies

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to Jerry

      Jerry thanks for serving the Lord in the capacity of working with students! What a formulative time in thier lives to build a foundation of Truth that will guide them through the pressure of relationships and our culture. Also I love the point that you bring out that as parents we need to affirm the Godly characteristics we see in our children, in most cases we are fixated on the negative.

      606 days ago

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Jerry

      Choice wisdom from one of my favorite people in the world. Keep rockin’ it in the Underground, Jerry. You are making a difference down there!

      606 days ago

  • Karen

    I really love that we have a Pastor who teaches God’s whole word, even if it is not a popular subject. Yesterday’s talk stepped on my toes, but I can honestly say I’m glad. If we had a Pastor who only talked about things that tickled our ears we would never grow in the Lord. I especially liked the different ways he pointed out that we can be dishonest. I have lied by omission by not talking to my husband about loaning a family member money and justifying it by saying “I am only trying to help others and God wants me to do that” A lie is a lie. I am so thankful to the Lord that my husband and I started coming to NRC. I have never left a talk feeling like I didn’t learn something and or convicted by the Holy Spirit. I want to say; Thank you Heavenly Father for the leadership we have at NRC. May they always be lead by Your Holy Spirit, In Jesus Name amen

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to Karen

      Karen, we are so glad that you are investing your time in placing yourself to hear God’s Word and being receptive to God’s Spirit. Continue to walk with Christ trusting every step along your journey!

      606 days ago

  • Joe

    Yesterdays sermon hit closer to home than ANY my wife and I have ever heard. Our marriage has been recently obliterated by lies and deceit, so much so that the lies were not only told to the one hurt by them, but to ones self so as to rationalize behavior. I only pray that it really sinks in and those lies become a thing of the past. They have followed us around for our entire marriage to the point where we teeter on divorce.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Joe

      Wow Joe. That’s some pretty difficult stuff to work through. I’m so encouraged to hear that the weekend message helped reaffirm some things you two are discovering right now. Just remember, no failure is final. God loves to make broken things whole and breath new life in to old bones.

      606 days ago

  • Sanda

    Really love the devotional! No time to finish it right now as I have Wed nite special needs study and Tues nite ladies study but quick look and I LOVE THE LARGE PRINT when showing the verses!! Hope to get back in very soon—Thank you ,

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Sanda

      We can’t wait to see you back! You can also download a pdf version of it if it’s more convenient.

      606 days ago

  • Nancy

    The types of things I struggle with are the ways in which I strive to present myself in the best light. I will ask God to help me not only to not think of myself more highly than I should be to be secure enough in Him to know that His opinion is the only one that really matters, anyway, and I can never fool Him.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Nancy

      The whole principle of living for an audience of one (Galatians 1:10) is so difficult to remember when something’s on the line. Way to keep at it!

      606 days ago

  • Jacquie

    Hello,
    So I had to distribute honest words today to my father. Really took the time to pray about saying the right words, without “sugar coating” it. Very difficult conversation to have, but it was necessary. I will be asking God for change for my father and that he looks to God for guidance to make these necessary changes.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to Jacquie

      Jacquie, that took Godly confidence and courage to be assertive with your father. I am so glad that you ask for God’s words to engage assertively, but respecfully with him. I hope that your father heard not only the content, but the context of your love for him. Continue to love him and pray fo him in his journey to see the changes in which God desires for him to experieince.

      606 days ago

  • M.H.

    As always, I came away with RELEVANT teaching to my daily life, that is why I keep coming back to Northridge. The idea that we don’t always have to spew out what is in our minds is a relief, especially when it comes to honesty, sometimes it is better to keep your mouth shut.

    Proverbs 3:3 Let not kindness and truth forsake thee: Bind them about thy neck; Write them upon the tablet of thy heart:

    I will hopefully take to heart Brad’s instruction to always consider the following when having to give a truth to someone that may be hurtful to hear… is it true, is it kind, is it necessary, is it helpful, is it constructive. So many people in my life have influenced me to believe that blunt honesty is a strength no matter how many people you hurt. It is not about sugarcoating, but about being sensitive to a person’s needs – will it really help them to know the truth.

    Thank you for the message this week, I came from a very traditional church, and never came away with God’s message like I do week after week until my husband and I started coming to Northridge.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to M.H.

      Truth and kindness. It’s not always easy to navigate but it’s a critical character trait.

      606 days ago

  • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

    Truth and kindness. It’s not always easy to navigate but it’s a critical character trait.

    606 days ago

  • Mike Johnson

    So many wonderful people on here willing to say,”hey! thats me! I struggle with that!” Let us all remeber and be encouraged, that just like Brad said, We can always ask at an minute at any hour of any day for Jesus to give us a new start. And you know what? He ALWAYS does! Bless you all.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • nick phililps

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      Mike, yes, and yes! Thanks for the “new start” reminder.

      606 days ago

  • pamela mroz

    I’m sorry I misssed this week it sounds like it was good , I’m listening to some of the conversation ,It sounds like he was talking about there is a lot of white lies that goes on people exagerate what is it really ,what are people trying to say I have been told take the cotton out of the ears and put in mouth and listen. I try to always remember that and not react on things so quickily. just listen first I have learned so much thru Northridge, I love seeing things happen when I know that is god. I’m glad I found Northridge and have a great pastor Brad.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderAnita (Discovery Island)

      in reply to pamela mroz

      You can view a pod cast of the service on line connect at northridgechurch.com.

      606 days ago

  • cindy

    Great sermon and great devotional. Thanks —I almost told a ridiculous lie about how many minutes I did on the tread mill and then Brad’s sermon came to mind. I prayed and told the truth-sounds kind of silly, but I know the lies can grow bigger and bigger and more hurtful. Thanks for Northridge

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to cindy

      Cindy, first I commend you for getting on the tread mill and running! Secondly, I like how you described a small lie as silly, which is so easily rationalized away from keeping us from experiencing a conscience perfectly clear toward all others! Matthew 5:8 “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” Good catch on the silly!

      606 days ago

  • Mike Johnson

    Something I was just thinking about was that we seem to be talking about being honest and truthful with others. But something hit me. How would I REALLY react if someone had to come to me in all honesty with something that may be hurtful to me. Not to change the subject, but I know that I also should be preparing my heart to accept rebuke or constructive criticism from others. I know that honesty with kindness may be hard to skillfully handle and present to others. But when we may be on the receiving end it can be a very hard pill to swallow. Remember Tim Elmore kind of talking about most people will see others as being or having more defects or problems than themselves.Being ready RECEIVE truthfulness and honesty from others may be just as important as presenting it.

    606 days ago3 Replies

    • Tricia

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      Absolutely Mike! If you are honest with yourself FIRST, then you can see others more clearly. darned plank…………………….

      606 days ago

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      That’s such an insightful twist on things Mike. It’s so hard sometimes to do a fearless assessment of one’s self; let alone being ready to receive it from an outside source. So important though, huh?

      606 days ago

    • Mike Johnson

      in reply to Josh (Social Media Pastor)

      Absolutely Josh and Tricia. In my own life I know that if I am going to be practicing honesty and truthfulness coupled with kindness, I better be ready in my own life to beable to receive the same. I think its easier to tell somebody they are wrong, than to have someone tell us we are wrong.Even when we know they are right! :-) And if you think about it, it all rolls around to being honest not only to others but to ourselves. Thanks Tricia for reminding me about the plank passage. I think I will get a stick and tape it to my dashboard as a reminder! ;-)

      606 days ago

    • Debby

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      Wow! That is something to remember. I know I have to be careful not to get angry so quickly when I’m just being told the truth in kindness. Thanks for the reminder!

      603 days ago

  • CathyM

    I think that for me the easiest way to avoid the truth is to answer a question with a question. ” Did you do ___?” “Why would you think I would do something like that?” “You really think I am capable of doing something like that?” Purposefully deflecting the truth is still dishonesty and still sinful in God’s eyes.

    The weekend’s talk was rather challenging. I spent time with my adult daughter and told her about the talk. I then told her that I taught her how to manipulate the truth and that I was wrong in doing so. Oh how I wish I had planted the tree 20 years ago.

    606 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to CathyM

      Cathy, great observation of how we tend to deflect the truth by redirecting back to others as a means to avoid being honest with them. Also, I would think most adult children would appreciate a parent who would be humbly honest about thier lives in the light of learning God’s truth. You may be surprised that a tree planted 20 years ago can have a large growth ring in a good season that can make it sturdier for it’s lifetime. Love your heart!

      606 days ago

  • Lanie

    What really hit home for me was the idea that truth and kindness should be bound together. I love that. Too often I find people feel that they have to say whatever is on their minds knowing it is sometimes hurtful. Additionally, if you can’t be kind then make sure hearing the truth is necessary. Thanks Brad

    606 days ago

  • Jen

    Great talk (as always!) from Brad this weekend. At some point in the message, Brad quoted from somewhere in Proverbs about how deceit ruins those who hear it. And when it comes to something like telling a friend that her new haircut “really isn’t that bad” or that her acne “is barely noticeable…” I started to wonder… would Solomon (and ultimately, God, since he is the real writer of Proverbs) have defined those comments as deceit? Is there a difference between lying and deceit? Hmmm….

    606 days ago

  • jacky

    I have read and totally agree with the writers who have stated just how blessed we are to have a pastor who allows the Holy Spirt to lead him in leading us. Thank you Pastor Powell for each week you care enough to share God’s goodness with us (your northridge family). I pray that God will continue to use you and your Team, because we (the church) benefit from your teaching. I can honestly say…I am spiritual fed each week because of your teachings.

    This week’s teaching is definitely food for thought and something for the soul to ponder.

    The talk this week is similar to one of those talks a parent has with their kid, hoping they take in some of the things said…just want you to know it appears that many of us are listening. Thanks again for taking on the job of developing us spiritual.

    606 days ago

  • Augusta

    I take the things the Northridge pastors teach me to heart. I love that everything said is followed by scripture. I have again been motivated and have added Proverbs to my daily bible study. I’d be lying if I told you I understood what I was reading. So, I had to go out and get the Bible Remix. :) I now can say truthfully that I understand. Now I have to put it into practice.

    606 days ago

  • Patti

    Years ago, we took our 4-year niece to church for her first time. She had a great time in Sunday school. But then there was children’s church. Boy, was she ever mad! Reason: “They said things I do are bad!” What was it? “Lying.” HILARIOUS! And beautiful that this precious child, now a precious Christian adult, recognized her sin so clearly.

    606 days ago

  • Bryan

    I am finding that “daily asking God” to reveal dishonesty in my life, as Brad encouraged, has become more like a “constant conversation”. And my most frequent question/ response to God is “really God?!?” God will reveal that which we tried to conceal. The more I study His word and write it on my heart my the more honest my conversations are. That’s only because the responses are less based on my brain, my ego, my pride, and more on Him, less of me. A daily struggle but a constant conversation.

    605 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Bryan

      That sounds pretty great. Love the constant conversation. A cool saying I once heard was “when we cover it, God reveals it. When we reveal it, God covers it.

      605 days ago

  • Melissa

    I too, like most, find myself struggling with omission. I am not usually afraid of sharing the truth if it will end up hurting me or exposing me to an uncomfortable situation. My ‘issue’ is having the courage and ability to not omit a truth that can hurt or leave another uncomfortable or in turmoil. I always go back to that kindness spot in my heart and have a hard time sharing things that cause someone else to hurt. Everyday, I’m God’s ‘work in progress’! This week, I’ll work on talking less, so that I may hear the Lord speak and allow him to guide me.

    605 days ago

  • Joan Bob Adis

    We have just started our small group, and we found this recent talk very good to discuss in our get-together

    605 days ago

  • Nick Phillips

    Joan, it’s great to hear that you are in a small group, and that you are processing the Truths from the talk to your group! It is a great way to learnings to application, and accountabilty. Stay connected!

    605 days ago

  • Nancy

    In reading the scripture about Abram and Sarai, I went on an emotional roller coaster with them. It’s amazing to think that Abram didn’t trust God enough to take care of him. He lied – subjecting Sarai to Pharaoh to save himself. How horrible for both of them. I can certainly relate to taking matters into my own hands to ‘make sure’ things go my way. But how comforting to see that God’s love for them never wavered. He delivered them from this situation Abram caused, and went on to make him the father of many nations! Awesome indeed.

    605 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Nancy

      It’s also encouraging to see that he eventually trusted God enough to sacrifice his own son when God asked it of Him.

      605 days ago

  • Natasha

    I love the fact that Brad spoke about watching the words that come out of our mouth. It does not matter how many times I have heard this message, I’m always challenged by it.

    Several years ago, I was challenged to go 30-days and only speak those things that were true, necessary and kind. What I discovered by using those parameters was that I did not have much to say at all. It was an eye opener to say the least.

    Something may be true but it may not be necessary for me to say. Or it may be kind but it may not be the truth. True…Necessary…Kind

    James 3:5-6 (NLT)
    In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.

    The tongue is a whole world of wickedness corrupting my entire body?

    OUCH!!

    605 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Natasha

      It’s interesting when the Bible gives a warning without giving a solution. This passage in James basically says, “your mouth has the ability to destroy everything . . . be careful . . . that is all.”

      It just means we have to maintain constant vigilance over the words we choose to say. It never gets easy, but we can develop the pattern.

      605 days ago

  • Ronald Ponkey

    GOD’S BLESSINGS CONTINUE TO FLOW: I just received a phone call from a distraught Bride whose Photographer cancelled on her wedding set for this Friday. I have the date available and I am bringing her in for a appointment..ofcourse she will get a good discount it being a last minute booking but the revenue is good in this bad economy…How God has blessed me and my studio….since I have realigned my personal and professional life with God many good things have been happening….THANK YOU LORD..IN THEE DO I PLACE MY TRUST!

    605 days ago2 Replies

    • Gail Neal

      in reply to Ronald Ponkey

      Praise the Lord!

      605 days ago

    • CathyM

      in reply to Ronald Ponkey

      Yay God!

      It is wonderful to see how God continues to bless you. It reminds me of a passage in The Message Bible that I really love. Psalm 119:1-3 says, “You’re blessed when you stay on course, walking steadily on the road revealed by God. You’re blessed when you follow his directions, doing your best to find him. That’s right – you don’t go off on your own; you walk straight along the road he set.” Just keep your eyes focused on our God and you won’t be disappointed.

      Be Blessed!

      605 days ago

  • Rick

    GOD’S Lessons! Yesterday we purchased a new vehicle for my son-The couple we bought it from left the amount paid blank on the title. They told us we could fill in the sale price with what we wanted to save on taxes. I went to transfer plates and get the title this morning- As I was leaving my son came in and said “What are you telling them it cost?” I told him the price we paid-He said “but that will cost another $300″ and I quoted Matthew 22:21 “Then give to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God the thing’s that are God’s” I also told him I’ve been blessed with a growing business in bad times by trying to live under God’s rules and not the world’s rules. Do what’s right in God’s eye’s and God will bless you! Eternal reward’s! Thank you God!

    605 days ago3 Replies

    • CathyM

      in reply to Rick

      Way to go Rick! It is tough making the decision that you know is going to cost you, but the rewards you will reap in the future will be well worth the $300 today. Great lesson for your son.

      605 days ago

    • Greg G

      in reply to Rick

      Very good example/ lesson. Did I see a little Wisdom creep in there too? Glad you had the strength to do what we all should. Best wishes for many blessings.

      605 days ago

    • Conversation LeaderJosh (Social Media Pastor)

      in reply to Rick

      I can remember many different times in which my father did similar things. Everything I know about integrity, work ethic, and honor I learned from him. Not from what he said, but from what I caught from watching him live. He’s a great man. And I’m a better man because of he decisions he let me watch him make.

      Well done Rick.

      605 days ago

  • Carol

    Brads talk on honesty was quite inspiring and beneficial to me since I have become acquainted with more scripture that I did not know even existed relating to telling the truth. Thank You Brad. ..your talk was a much needed talk in my opinion because we encounter this problem everyday and with people who are Dear to us. My belief is honesty is always the best method in life.How can you go wrong when you tell the truth and even if you know the truth is going to hurt you, the pain will diminish sooner or later because we have a High King called Jesus and he covers all our hurts and pain. Thank you again for this inspiring talk and it is always a pleasure to be enlightened by subjects that are taking place each and everyday.

    605 days ago1 Reply

    • Conversation LeaderNick (Care Ministries Pastor)

      in reply to Carol

      Carol, Proverbs is so rich in practical applilcation to real life! I like what you said about even though honesty hurts, we have a covering of Jesus the picks us up. If we truly have lost our lives in Christ to the extent that we don’t need to preserve ourselves or live our lives in pre-tense to anyone under our new identity in Christ. What a freeing and secure place to be!

      604 days ago

  • Solove

    The Liar Liar really touched me. I have always been very careful with my words, but the message is making me even more mindful about what I say and how I say it. I am very excited about this whole series thus far. I also like The Conversation.

    604 days ago

  • Donna

    I have really enjoyed the experience I have recieved out of each of the sevices liar liar really touhed home. I had recently told a friend the truth about something and told me they no longer wanted to be my friend. I was heartbroken and have been every since I have tried to make a menz with no avail. I still believe telling the truth is the right thing to do even if the consequinces seem bad at the time. I just know God has a purpose and I need to stay on the right path.

    603 days ago1 Reply

    • Kathryn

      in reply to Donna

      I think about this a lot. I come from a fairly unhealthy family and have found that while people generally SAY they want the truth, they really don’t. I think honesty is a heart issue and that there is also wisdom in learning when to trust people with the truth and when to simply refuse to get drawn into the conversation. There are certain things I just refuse to discuss with my family—not because I want to deceive them, but because total honesty implies a level of vulnerability they simply aren’t trustworthy enough to deserve.

      603 days ago

  • TOM

    Lying, Every single solitary day, to an extent, some greater other days miniscule, I would say I am guilty of it in some way shape or form, to myself or to others and or a combination of both ! and truthfully sometimes during the course of a given week the only time I am honest is the Hour and half I am at Northridge and quite a bit has to do with me simply keeping mouth shut during Church ! Then I hear the unvarnished truth of God`s words and think ! What on earth am I doing, how come I cannot keep the faith ? I mean really am I that much of a Sinner { complete and utter moron} that I just can`t do the simple things and follow through with what I have learned and know absolutely that this is the truth and not act contrary to it, for God`s sake !

    How am I to conduct myself that would make others feel & or think as though, hmmm what gives and or you must truly walk the walk in respect to be a Christian, not only in words but deeds, I am making a very concientous effort of walking in the light, however I am still critical, sarcastic, not too mention caustic, blatantly disregarding what I know to be true until it`s too late and I have opened my big Yap, it`s not as If I am an F5 tornando daily, however I am capable of unleashing with the best of em, I like to defer to Spirited debate, nevertheless, I know I have lied to prove a point and also disregarded the still small voice inside especially when I get the tunnel vision, not as bad as I used to though, but then again that voice is becoming more prominent once again and am grateful for that, it stops me cold sometimes, I am soooo glad politics is never truly taken up at Church :}, { Lying} it can be however with my family friends, in the marketplace I work in, where I can and have Lied, I am truly grateful for the understanding and the teachability I have rediscovered in spades since coming to Church, I know now that I can correct myself, clean myself off, Apologize and try my best not to do some of the things that have become commonplace in our society and acceptable up to and including me, Discovering that the standards set down for me by Jesus has made me acutely aware of my actions and others and am making a serious and honest concerted effort to Walk the walk

    603 days ago

  • Ken Britton

    Sometimes the difference between a lie and a truth is a vey thin veil. As a youth watching tele evegalism I must have heard it 99 times ” Grace is the Unmerited Favor of God.” Today sadly enough I still hear this refrain time again and would like to stick my finger down my throat each time I hear it!. I have definitely “swallowed something evil” and the taste is unlike any ” Bread of Life. ” It is not only tjhe fact there absolutely NO scriptural references to make this point true, not one, buit it is clear to the heart close to Christ it is a outright belittling false impression or expression. I do reaize it is possible to understand by revelation God’s Word without having to use exacting scriptural references. In this declaration though let’s consider meaning. If there is a person hearing/seeing this and you find it contentious simply reprove me and I will gladly sit reproved or corrected. I might also counter the Love of God is doing “nice things” the scriptures also imply such demonstrative acts. That may not be an error or lie by the letter of the word but it is certainly a lie by the Spirit of the Word. How could I possibly call the Love of God falling from high like a mountain waterfall and contrast it to a rusty, old pump well nealry impossible to draw water though our effort near exhaustible?
    Then what do I make of Grace? It is not a “favor” which borders on partiality and favoritism or a distinct, select group of identifiable Christians. I am christian and adhere to it but the love of God is Universal my friend not for a selected few but for all. The word unmerited also holds no scriptural text nor does it imply it. He has made me worthy not by the works of my flesh or the letter of the law. Martin Luther recognized he could do his best in the flesh for a 1000 years and it wouldn’t touch the least of God’s goodness in a moments time. The grace of God than is a righteousness which goes beyond the best intent of my flesh and even the best of my efforts though I have a ton of will to do well!! Grace amazing has “saved a wretch like me, I once was lost, but now am found, was blind, but now, am in the progress of seeing.” This is an amazing grace we can relate too. ” through many dangers, toil, and snare, we have already come,.. it is GRACE that has brough us to a place in Spirit thus far, and grace to lead us home.” (Paraphrase needed.) I have also heard another verse in song which describes GRACE in such a lovely, truthful expression: ” Grace finds beauty in ugly things, Grace finds goodness in everything” It is certain in the depths of my soul when I thought I was so holy was the ugliness of sin and iniquity. Iniquity is HIDDEN SIN. It is sin that is lodged in the mind or the heart by but we don not recognize it as sin. We see the example of iniquity in a man after God’s own heart when he was reproved by Nathan. It is grace amazing whcih can take or make an ugly life and give it radiant beauty. It is grace which can take or make our most ugliest of circumstances and make it or give it beauty beyond limited imagination or any feint hope. It is Gods grace which finds goodness in everything or all things. Let us remember the dear words of GRACE of our Lord while uttered on an agonizing cross to the men most defiled by sin the world as known or who hated him beyond tongue or pen cwuld tell: “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.” This my friends in your future sermon I can relate as God’s grace! I will not stand on a sappy soapbox and proclaim Gods Word is a “dead letter.” We ought to relate and appreciate God’s mercy, grace and truth every day in all ways. The grace of God is an abundantly beautiful thing but if you want to cage it in a gallow of empty words by all means do so and “explain” grace as “the unmerited favor of God.” What a terrible cliche more so what a lie. It was the religious leaders and roman guards who tied the hands of the Lord. It is so possible to tie HIs hands with my fragmented thinking and belief systems.

    603 days ago

  • Ken

    Oops… did not mean to make known my name above in mini sermon.. I may need one of those “mulligans” Brad has spoken of in past sermons! Please concentrate on the better part of an over long message! There is another part of a song verse saying, “”Grace, she takes the blame, covers the shame, removes the stain…”" Have had the incredible joy to experience all three of these facets of grace…. and “she travels outside of karma.” I supppose bad ‘karma’ could have killed me (literally), therefore let us be ever so thankful for God’s ‘amazing grace.’ Thankful for mercy, grace, and TRUTH, the message of the week, but one does not find truth(s) before the wonders of grace.

    603 days ago

  • Bryan

    Charles Spurgeon once said ” the most useful members of a church are usually those who would be doing the most harm if they were not doing good”. I agree but think the fulcrum or determiner of whether or how we participate is whether we are experiencing and/or living in honesty with God, ourselves and others ….. Inside and outside of church. genuine relationship requires honesty, otherwise (as Brad said) it’s just “image management” going from one dishonest “act” of “behaving” or “keeping the riles” to another; like a hamster on a treadmill versus a spiritual journey running the course God intended. Honesty make life real, relevant and reinvigorating…because it’s the cornerstone of our relationship with God and everyone else.

    602 days ago

  • Mike Johnson

    I got to ask. Has anyone else been experiencing this. Ever since this series started and The Conversation started, After each talk God has been bringing challenges in that specific weeks themes to our lives? I mean, We began with trust. And all through the week as we discussed it here I was challenged to trust God in certain specific ways. Same with wisdom, and now with honesty.I better buckle up for the full 8 seconds in this rodeo, cuz we have 9 more weeks to go! LOL!

    602 days ago1 Reply

    • CathyM

      in reply to Mike Johnson

      Mike, unfortunately for us, I would have to say yes to your question. God actually woke me up at about 4 this morning and challenged me to come totally clean to someone. There is the truth and then there is the entire truth. The truth, although technically true doesn’t necessarily give the entire picture. I was glad it was raining so I could sleep through my first alarm and not go for my morning walk. Challenging series for sure!

      Question of the day, if we don’t go to church and don’t hear the talk, will that mean we miss the challenge?

      602 days ago

  • Marijo

    I think alot of what is at the root core of dishonesty and lying is the “masks” that we all tend to wear. We are so afraid of what people may think of us if we truly are ourselves and can be real with one another. There is the pressure “to belong” and keep up with the Joneses ( whomever they are), to be popular and well liked and certainly not be offensive. It can be challenging to be bold and stand up for what is right and just by God’s standards. At times, this may involve the risk of rejection and possibly being hurt. We may lose a friendship, or a family member’s love….but we need to continue reflecting and evaluating our motives for our actions. Do they impact eternity or earthly satisfaction and temporary things? I am continually reminded that God is BIG enough…and IS enough….but am I applying that to my life in ALL areas?

    602 days ago